A LIFE COACH FOR SURVIVORS
“What you seek is seeking you.” ~Rumi
As a life coach, I partner with and coach survivors who are seeking to discover and address transitions in their life, relationship dynamics, and obstacles and/or challenges they are facing right now in their lives. Then, together we plan a course of action that addresses these needs and how to reach the goals they have set for themselves realistically.
Life coaching is designed as a partnership between the coach and survivor, whereby this coaching relationship gives all the power back to the survivor. In all cases, the individual truly has the answers to the discoveries about the challenges and transitions faced, yet, the answers may be blocked from memory due to past events, obscured to deflect traumatic experiences, and/or buried as hidden secrets in order keep from facing the conflict or pain.
Choices are a part of life that sustain us to live in the present, joyfully, and with purpose. In contrast, they can also allow us to live in the past with regrets, emptiness, and sorrow. Whatever we choose for ourselves, our reality is a result of those choices. As a life coach, I assist survivors to see their choices from both perspectives, take ownership of them, and understand the consequences these choices may have on their life now and in the future.
Life coaches are for offering a survivor balance, harmony, and a purpose-filled life from which self-confidence, self-esteem, and happiness are enhanced so aspirations can be fulfilled. Connecting hand to heart is part of what life coaches try to achieve in moving an individual from surviving to a more fulfilled life of…thriving. It is deeply rewarding for survivors when they find their passion and are able to fulfill these dreams into reality. These heartfelt connections are a driving force that motivate, inspire, and become a catalyst for forward movement that jump start people into action.
Many of the topics life coaches discuss with survivors are general in nature, yet can become more specific based on what a survivor requires and/or needs. Below are topics that are touched on by most individuals who have survived traumatic experiences…?
- Confidence, Self Worth & Self Esteem
- How to Love Yourself
- Loving Relationships That Work
- How to Confront Fear and Get Unstuck
- When to Surrender & When to Let Go
- Transforming Negative Self-Talk
- Thriving in the Present While Unraveling the Past
- The Mastery of Balance and Harmony – Juggling a Life
- Self Care – Getting Your Own Needs Met
- Living a Purpose-Filled Life
- Confronting Your Anger in Healthy Ways
- Managing Grief, Loss, Sadness, & Change
- Emotional Intelligence
- Self & Identity – Learning How to Thrive!
- Finding Healthy Hobbies to Grow Into…Organic Gardening, Volunteering, Mentoring, etc.
- Loving the Child Within So the PRESENT Adult Can Be Loved too
- Living a Healthy Lifestyle – Sleep, Nutrition, & Fitness
There is a spark of God in each of us just waiting to shine its glow! Believe in its power, the unimaginable, the divine spirit, and more magnificently, Believe in YOU!
When dealing with trauma and abuse, it is so easy to focus on our shortcomings and loss, rather than what positive benefits have resulted from the tragedy itself. As a survivor of trauma and two traumatic brain injuries, the loss has been great for me, yet, I try to envision myself with what I have left that is fully functioning, and capitalize on those gifts to bring about change in myself and for others in positive ways. Emotional intelligence is one way in which I can offer intuitive and emotional connections with others at a deep and meaningful level.
I have an intense passion for nurturing relationships, and in doing so, strive to connect in ways that are spiritual and divine in nature. Understanding others brings a voice to empathy and compassion, and learning ways to understand one’s own emotional intelligence is a powerful method of healing in and of itself. Self-knowledge is a tool in guiding survivors or most individuals, for that matter, in claiming power over themselves to take the control back into their lives, to learn how to manage their emotions, decision making processes, and choosing how to react to challenges, conflicts, and toxic conditions. Life is all about complexities, and how we choose to respond to them is part of the human condition. Yet, learning the strategies to do so, is half the battle. You already know more than you think. I am here to bring it to the forefront of your psyche so you can use it for renewal, restoration, strength, and freedom. Breathe…
Improving Emotional Intelligence
Most people today want to connect with others on a global platform, seeking to understand other people’s perspective, knowledge and/or intelligence (IQ). Inasmuch, they also thirst for connecting on a more personal level. When we aim for success at work and in building partnerships with others, relationships matter far beyond the intellect. Therefore, finding ways to nurture relationships, whether professionally or personally, is conducive to building strong bonds of emotional intelligence. Here, our intent is put into action, and our informed decision making is enhanced with moral and ethical leadership because it impacts those who matter most in our lives.
What is emotional intelligence?
Emotional intelligence (EQ) is the ability to identify, use, understand, and manage your own emotions in positive ways to relieve stress, communicate effectively, empathize with others, overcome challenges and defuse conflict. This ability also allows us to recognize and understand what others are experiencing emotionally. This recognition and understanding is, for the most part, a nonverbal process that informs thinking and influences how well you connect with others.
Emotional intelligence differs from how we think of intellectual ability, in that emotional intelligence is a learned—not acquired. This learning can take place at any time in life so the social and emotional skill set, known as emotional intelligence, is something we can all have.
It is important to remember that there is a difference, however, between learning about emotional intelligence and applying that knowledge to your life. Just because you know you should do something doesn’t mean you will—especially when you become overwhelmed by stress, which can override your best intentions. In order to permanently change behavior in ways that stand up under pressure, you need to learn how to overcome stress in the moment, and in your relationships in order to remain emotionally aware. HELPGUIDE.ORD
As Travis Bradberry points out in Forbes Magazine, 2014,
“Emotional intelligence is the “something” in each of us that is a bit intangible. It affects how we manage behavior, navigate social complexities, and make personal decisions that achieve positive results. Emotional intelligence is made up of four core skills that pair up under two primary competencies: personal competence and social competence.
Personal competence is made up of your self-awareness and self-management skills, which focus more on you individually than on your interactions with other people. Personal competence is your ability to stay aware of your emotions and manage your behavior and tendencies.
- Self-Awareness is your ability to accurately perceive your emotions and stay aware of them as they happen.
- Self-Management is your ability to use awareness of your emotions to stay flexible and positively direct your behavior.
Social competence is made up of your social awareness and relationship management skills; social competence is your ability to understand other people’s moods, behavior, and motives in order to improve the quality of your relationships.
- Social Awareness is your ability to accurately pick up on emotions in other people and understand what is really going on.
- Relationship Management is your ability to use awareness of your emotions and the others’ emotions to manage interactions successfully.” (Bradberry, 2014)
With emotional intelligence, you have the ability to learn and acquire a better skill set that can be improved on. Conversely, intelligence (IQ), is your ability to learn whether you are 10 or 50. Emotional intelligence, therefore, has a powerful impact on one’s ability to be successful in one’s career, wellness, recovery, healing, emotional trauma, and abuse. In every aspect of a person’s life, emotional intelligence allows you to “focus your energy in one direction with tremendous result.
“Your emotional intelligence is the foundation for a host of critical skills—it impacts most everything you say and do each day. Emotional intelligence is the single biggest predictor of performance in the workplace and the strongest driver of leadership and personal excellence.” (Bradberry, 2014)
As a life coach and having personal experience in trauma, abuse, and traumatic brain injuries, I want to bring survivors to a place of solace in realizing they no longer need to live in fear, in the darkness, powerless, and/or controlled by outside forces. Seeking inner peace and the courage to fill yourself up with love for you is a starting point. These are baby steps that bring a renewal of spirit and a light force that synapses your brain with positivity, excitement, and a resilient spirit. You, of course, must be the one to choose to live a life in the glow if you want change to happen. A life coach, like myself, can only guide and assist in making those broken pieces of glass shimmer once again. You alone have the power to make your life fabulous! After all, life is so much more amazing to glow into once you choose it for yourself…❣️ If you want to thrive, instead of survive, I am here to help you make that transition possible. Love Yourself, Live Your Spirit.?
?Contact me if you would like to start engaging in a plan or strategy to improve your life, access the glow from within, and shine on! Leveraging your strengths in making them work for you is a process of self-realization. Let me assist you in digger deeper to increase and synergize your energies for a more healthy and productive lifestyle! As a Psychologist, Life Coach, and Leadership strategist with over two decades of experience, I have counseled, advised, and coached students, educators, and managers in developing their full potential. Let me do the same for YOU so you, too, can live in the Glow!?