?Good morning sweet souls! Wishing you a day of blessings, adventures, and discoveries of massive proportions!? It’s gorgeous outside so make the most of it!?
How was your week? What goals or accomplishments did any of my tribe make? It’s always fun to celebrate those small or big strides we make regardless of how we see ourselves compared to someone else. It’s challenging to remember, but our journey is so unique to ourselves and should not be compared with someone else’s. What is difficult for us or seen as traumatic from what we have experienced may be envisioned by someone else as less complex to untangle mentally and emotionally. Yet, in comparison, his trauma has variables that is uniquely his own which he has suffered through. Our accomplishments are the focus, for in reaching our goals we have become successful in our follow through!?? This brings enhanced self-confidence, self-esteem, and self-worth.?
?Celebrating yourself is key in mental and emotional stability because you are in control. What you believe is your reality. Creating a positive mindset is so advantageous when overcoming the warfare we deal with in mental and emotional trauma. Self-Abuse is a powerful caveat of abuse because it is self induced by years of having it beat into you…literally. Our self-doubt, fears of abandonment, hyper vigilance, overthinking responses, personal toxicity, unworthiness, feeling unsafe, insecure, not belonging or fitting in, flashbacks, and lack of trust in oneself from thoughts, voice, and behaviors are what we exhibit in our adult years when abused and/or neglected as a child. We see all our flaws, our imperfections and apologize a million times for them even though we have nothing to apologize for. Who knew YOU were the normal one trying to be molded into one that mirrored the ones who persecuted you? Your brain, as powerful and intellectual as it is, sparred you from the agony of abuse and protected you from more than you could handle. But, it still needs to know you are safe and sound so you can be released from its sacred holding nest…?
?Trusting yourself to be bold, confident, courageous, honest, and then, advocate on your behalf is one of the most fearful, exhilarating, and prestigious feelings you will ever have. Many people may look up to you and learn from you. Some will think you are a fraud. And, others will not care at all. The good news is that it’s not about them or their response to your trauma or abuse. What matters most is that you have risen from the darkness of shattered glass and shimmer once again.✨ YOU matter! You are the hero or heroine of your life. It doesn’t matter what other people think. What matters is that you are on your journey to become and you need not apologize to anyone for it. It wasn’t your fault. You are beautiful just the way you are…❣️
I will leave you with Brené Brown’s B.R.A.V.I.N.G. for learning how to trust yourself and others:
B- Boundaries: Trust is setting healthy ones
R- Reliability: Trust is knowing you will follow through each time
A- Accountability: I can only trust you knowing if you make a mistake you will own it, apologize and make amends
V- The Vault: Trust is confidentiality
I- Integrity: “Choosing courage over comfort, choosing what’s right over what’s fun, fast or easy, and practicing your values not just professing your values.” Brené Brown
N-Non-Judgement: Trust is struggling and asking for help
G- Generosity: Trust is assuming the best about words, intentions, and actions. Then, asking me about them.
?So, celebrate you, your life, and the great strides you have made this week or daily.? Whatever brings joy to your soul…do that.?? Life is short and time waits for no one.??xoxo
In Love and Light,?
Kimberly Lees, Ed.D.
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